Girls weekends can be tricky. From scheduling and coordinating to figuring out how to split up the costs and making sure there's something for everyone—there are lots of places where things can go wrong. But when well-executed (like our trip to Ojai was), they're some of my favorite memories from adulthood. Here's a short recap from our recent stay at The Ojai Valley Inn and the steps we take to ensure our times away are always enjoyable:
1. How do you decide on the crew? I'm lucky in that the group I travel with most often came together naturally in the last couple of years. The six of us balance each-other out perfectly (some of us will opt for an adventurous hike, while others are happier to lounge by the pool for an afternoon) and we all bring something different to the table, which I think is important. But whether you go with just one friend or a bus-load of girls, be sure to go with women you feel like your best self around.
2. How do you decide where to go? Most of the time, we like to stick to quick, easy-to-get to spots (like Ojai, Big Sur, Palm Springs, etc.) and are gone for two to three nights—though we spent a memorable getaway in New Orleans last year and Jackson Hole late last year. Girls trips are so important for hitting the reset button, so as long as we go someplace we're all excited about, which is key.
3. How do you divy-up costs during the trip? This is where Venmo and pre-planning comes in. Usually one person will put the hotel costs on their card and then all additional incidentals will be in one place so that we can easily split up the cost at the end of the trip. When we do go out for other meals or drinks, we're never that formal about it and typically just take turns on who pays for what.
4. Why do you always match (and how do you decide what to wear)? To be fair, we don't always do this, but I will say—it certainly does make it a lot more fun! Not to mention, when a group of six girls walks by in sunset shades or all-white, people do take notice. It's not something that's necessary, but I can't help but feel more connected (and find delight) in wearing similar things as my closest friends while on vacation.
5. Do you always stay as one group, or ever split-up? I'd say we stay as a group for 85% of the trip, but there's always wiggle room so that if someone needs a nap or two people feel like shopping, that's something they can do. As an introvert who does tend to need alone time, I'm surprised at how little of it I need while I'm on a trip with other women.
6. Do you have a favorite girls' trip you've gone on? It's so hard to choose! But if I had to narrow it down, it would be between Jackson Hole this past winter (with the same crew) and Paris last spring with Cristina.
P.S., Read about why I think girls' trips are so important to take here!
For those of you who followed my Stories on learning how to ride a bike last week (which you can still see here), you'll be happy to hear that I successfully rode into town! I joked that Cristina gave me such specific instructions following behind me "Go to your right!" "Now use your breaks!" that people probably thought I was blind. But I made it in without incident and even encountered a sweet reader who wished me luck. Part embarrassing, all very sweet.
Our group is early to bed and early to wake, so we all gathered in one room to have coffee and pastries the next morning.
On our way out of town, we stopped at Boccali's for dinner, a small, unassuming roadside Italian spot for pizza, pasta and their legendary strawberry shortcake. All in all, the weekend felt indulgent, relaxing, and was the best way to reinvigorate me for the fun to come this spring and summer.