G and I are generally pretty good about starting the New Year on the "right" note. Whether I decide to make resolutions or not, we often use the start of the year as a jumping-off point to address the areas we struggle most with, namely eating and cooking healthy meals and exercising. This year, I kept waiting for the reset to happen... but it never came. We spent the first two weeks of the new year living as if the holidays never ended—eating out and ordering in a lot, saying "yes" to any and all sweets, and generally feeling off track. It was fun, but I didn't feel good.
As you may have seen in my Instagram Live on Thursday (which I reiterated in this post), I finally brought it up in therapy. When I did, my therapist asked about my goals, but I couldn't name a single one. His response was simple, yet it came as something of an epiphany to me: "How are you supposed to hit your goals if you don't have a target?"
I've always had a complicated relationship with New Year's resolutions. The idea of promising to do something for an entire year feels daunting, not to mention far too restrictive. I don't want to promise myself, "I won't eat candy for a year," nor should I, but there's a happy medium I was overlooking.
When my therapist suggested making goals one week at a time, it felt not only doable but exciting. I have some overall goals, but the way I achieve them each week will change, depending on my progress and plans that week. My goal isn't to deprive myself, but to empower myself. As a result, my goals may look entirely different from someone else's, or even yours—and that's okay. Someone else may be able to eat zero sugar or cook healthy meals at home every single night, and I'm in awe of anyone who can do that, but that isn't me. In the past, I've been intimidated to share these goals publicly in case l fall off the wagon, but that will also be part of this process. Because instead of being scared by the concept of failure, I realize that slip-ups happen and I'd rather address them (and perhaps even try to understand why they happened in the first place).
So that all brings me to the idea that we should do this together! Anyone else who finds the process of picking a goal and sticking to it to be overwhelming, perhaps this will appeal to you as well. I'll be tracking it all on Instagram, but in case you also want to kick things off with us, we're choosing three doable goals for this first week and starting today. They can be about food, exercise, mental health, work...anything that you want to accomplish. Here are the goals of our editorial team - I hope you find them inspiring while creating your own (and if you choose them, use the hashtag #HereAreMyGoals so I can see them!):
Here are my goals, for my first week:
1. Bring lunch to work every day.
2. Limit alcohol to two nights this week.
3. Tackle my to-do list from over break (clean out my car, return packages, etc).
And here's how I'm breaking them down by day:
Leslie's 'First Week' Goals
1. Exercise four days this week (before gum surgery on Friday).
2. Read for at least an hour every day.
3. Make time to call long-distance friends.
Jess's 'First Week' Goals
1. Get in bed by 11 P.M. every night (that’s early for me—I’m a night owl!)
2. Use the Peloton at least three times.
3. Pack reusable cups and metal straws for my trip to NYC (and actually use them!)
Katie's 'First Week' Goals
1. Complete another full week of low carb, mindful eating.
2. Read a book from a genre I'd normally never pick.
3. Tackle two of the unglamorous wedding tasks I've been putting off!
Forget about the entire year, what are your goals for this week? Share in the comments or on social with the hashtag #HereAreMyGoals. If you share via Stories, be sure to tag me. I'll be reposting a few! x