The funny thing about planning a wedding is that you have to make a lot of enormous, emotionally-charged purchases and decisions in areas in which you usually have absolutely no expertise within a relatively short amount of time. Suddenly, you're hiring photographers, planning a party, and buying jewelry you're (hopefully!) going to wear for the rest of your life. Before getting engaged, I had never stepped into a jewelry store, let alone purchased fine jewelry for myself. Shortly after getting engaged, I was regularly visiting August to select my wedding day earrings and going to Voiage to get my engagement ring resized (and, really, to chat with the owner Julie who's since become a friend!).
In selecting the wedding band to go with my engagement ring, I knew I wanted to take my time and thoughtfully weigh my options. My mom still talks about the ruby and diamond band she wishes she'd purchased, and I wanted to make sure that I'm making the right decision for mine (if we can't learn from our moms, from whom can we?). Earlier this week, I stopped by Ceremony in Downtown Los Angeles, which creates beautiful, sustainable, and ethically sourced rings, to chat with co-founders Jess and Chelsea. Here are some of their recommended options and variations to consider:
To start, look at the bottom of your engagement ring, at the thickness of the band. You can either go the "safe" route and select a wedding band around the same width, or, opt for a thicker band, which I considered so that I can wear the same band my mom wears. Personally, when it comes to the width of the band, I love the look of a band that's either the exact same size or much larger, to make a statement.
Of course, budget comes into play when talking about whether or not you want diamonds on your wedding band, in which case you can opt for three-quarters, half, or infinity (all the way around). The diamonds can either match the same carat size as the stones on your engagement band, if you elect to have any, or they can be smaller to let your engagement ring make the statement.
Before trying on wedding bands, I was set on getting one with diamonds. I loved the look of my friend Alex's wedding band, and how it complemented the diamonds in her engagement ring. But, when I tried on an infinity ring I was surprised to find I didn't like it at all: The diamonds upstaged those in my engagement ring!
As Jess and Chelsea put it, "There are no rules!" Feel free to take their permission and throw out anything you've heard about mixing metals, because the combination of a silver band with my rose gold one looked beautiful and intentional. At least try it on to see—you may be surprised what you find!
With a higher set diamond ring, you may consider a band that nests under it. I initially considered a "puzzle band," or one that nestles into the unique shape of my engagement ring, but dismissed the idea after realizing it would look strange if I wore it on its own. But there are also bands that have etchings, unique shapes, and even signets that would all make stunning wedding bands.
Even if you didn't opt for a vintage band for your engagement ring, you can still get one for your wedding band! I looooved this heart-shaped wedding band (above), as well as how the red rubies take the otherwise simple band (below) up a notch. You never know what you'll find!