The Importance of Girls' Weekends

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{En route to the pool right after checking in}

{En route to the pool right after checking in}

This past week I went away for my first girls' trip since having Sloan. I've been apart from her before for work, but that usually consists of 2-3 days of rushed meetings and quick turnarounds. A couple of months ago, after a string of particularly challenging weeks, I needed something relaxing to look forward to, so my friends and I booked a little Palm Springs getaway.

I had a lot of conflicted feelings about leaving Sloan. Before she was born, G and I talked about the importance of maintaining some level of independence and not feeling guilty about needing moments of personal space. For the most part, we’ve succeeded in doing that, whether that means him taking a long bike ride or me getting a coffee + mani/pedi with friends. However, leaving both of them for a few days felt almost too selfish, as if I was cashing in a larger chip than I deserved. As I shared my thoughts with G, he basically told me that he wanted me to go - to hit reset on my perspective and zone out for a few days.

Palm Springs has always been a therapeutic place for me - the dry desert heat, the smell of citrus in the air, and warm, lazy evenings have made it one of my favorite spots to visit. I hadn't been there since a day of vintage shopping in 2013, so I was overdue for a visit. We read magazines by the pool, drank boozy lemonades, watched tennis (it was fun to see Nadal practice from a few feet away, even though I’m still broken that Federer wasn’t at the tournament), and did little else for two days.

I anticipated the typical post-vacation letdown to hit as soon as we got on the road back to L.A. But that wasn't the case. I felt like a different person and came home with a renewed sense of energy and purpose. Our quick trip helped me hit the reset button and served as a reminder that sometimes getting away is the best way to get out of a rut.

{Hats, from left to right: Ace of Something, Sensi Studio (similar here), Cuyana

{Hats, from left to right: Ace of Something, Sensi Studio (similar here), Cuyana

With Brooke before the tennis match on our patio wearing a new Cupcakes and Cashmere romper (the color is "Palm Springs"!)

With Brooke before the tennis match on our patio wearing a new Cupcakes and Cashmere romper (the color is "Palm Springs"!)

First drink of the trip: spiked lemonade

First drink of the trip: spiked lemonade

Pre-pool at The Parker

Pre-pool at The Parker

The view across the practice courts at Indian Wells

The view across the practice courts at Indian Wells

Frozen lemonade helped combat the 95 degree temperature

Frozen lemonade helped combat the 95 degree temperature

With Cristina on our second morning

With Cristina on our second morning

View from the hot tub

View from the hot tub

A sherbet-colored dress that was made for Palm Springs

A sherbet-colored dress that was made for Palm Springs

Pie shakes (we all got the same kind two days in a row): vanilla, chocolate, bananas, and graham cracker crust

Pie shakes (we all got the same kind two days in a row): vanilla, chocolate, bananas, and graham cracker crust

Love these 'Love' chairs

Love these 'Love' chairs

Breakfast on the patio (the blueberry pancakes with devonshire cream were my favorite)

Breakfast on the patio (the blueberry pancakes with devonshire cream were my favorite)

Pool-side at dusk

Pool-side at dusk

The bacon flight at Cheeky's

The bacon flight at Cheeky's

{Misters by the lemonade stand}

{Misters by the lemonade stand}

{On our way to the tennis match}

{On our way to the tennis match}

{View from the top of the stadium}

{View from the top of the stadium}

{At one of the many adorable little nooks on the property}

{At one of the many adorable little nooks on the property}

Late afternoon ping pong

Late afternoon ping pong

Braided messy bun + ruffled collar

Braided messy bun + ruffled collar

P.S. All of my clothes (besides the sherbet dress) are from the upcoming Cupcakes and Cashmere summer collection, which will be available within the next couple of weeks!